Condolences on the Loss of a Child

The loss of a child is something that no parent is prepared to handle. It can be heart-wrenching for both the mother and the father to lose their child, for whom they must have weaved so many dreams.

As friends and family of such grieving parents, there is nothing much we can do. But of course, if we say or write a few words of kindness and sympathy, if we send or express our deeply felt condolences to the parents, it can make them feel a little encouraged and a little better, about the whole situation.

Whether you are expressing your condolences or writing a message, always keep them short and simple. Be very precise and prepare beforehand what you are going to say. Here are some ideas on the same that you can consider.

• I am sorry for your loss.
• How can I help you?
• Do you want to share something about your child with me?
• Although I am not in your place, but I can still feel the pain you are going through.
• If you are feeling angry or sad about what has happened, do not feel ashamed of expressing your emotions. I am here to listen to you.

These words may seem simple, but they can make a huge difference to the one who is suffering. In case the parents live outstation and you are unable to visit them, you can always send across your sympathy messages through a card. Here are some ideas on writing sympathy messages.

Dear...,

I am so sad to hear about your loss. I know how difficult it will be for you to come to terms with what has happened. But do not lose faith my friend. Hang in there. You are in my prayers, always.

Love,
...

Dear...,

Your little boy/girl was so much like you. So loving and so caring. The bond that you two shared, was so strong that it can never be broken. One day, you both will meet again in heaven. So, don't be sad.

Love,
...

Dear...,

I am at a loss of words to express how deeply hurt and sorry I am for you. Your daughter was loved by all. I am so lucky that I knew her and that I have so many fond memories of us together. Your daughter may have left us today, but her spirit will always be alive through her memories.

Love,
...

When offering condolences, never compare the loss to something that you have suffered or you should not say things like, "You will soon have another child", "Whatever happens, happens for the best" or "It's good that you have other children". Such insensitive statements on your part, can further add to the agony of the parents and hence, should be avoided.

Instead, you should always look for ways to make the parents comfortable. You should offer to help them in whichever way you can. Sending them cooked meals, picking their children from school, doing household shopping for them for a few days - these are some of the things that you can do for the grieving parents and make their life a little better.

Along with the words, small gestures like giving the parents a hug, holding their hand and sending them flowers, will mean a lot to them. Through your words and actions, make the parents feel that they are not alone and they can always count on your support. After all, this is what friends and family are for, right?